There’s money to be made in elevator security videos these days. Somewhere out there is a now unemployed hotel employee making bank off the bad behavior of those who “appear” to be known celebrities (wink, wink). Now if they just had a side order of audio to go with that entree of hella-mess!
Something snapped for the alleged aggressor and she could not for another moment contain her utter disgust as hands and feet flayed in that small space. The alleged target stands there giving verbal jabs, debonair through it all. Let’s not forget the bystander who could do nothing but try and fade into the glass walls. That right there was NOT an incident that JUST happened. No siree! Trust and believe this was a stew brewing for more than a hot second.
As adults we have to take inventory of our sore spots. What sets you off? Ignorance, hypocrisy, trifling brother-in-laws? Here are some quick tips on assessing those behavioral loop holes.
Who among us hasn’t smirked or cringed inwardly when someone got on our nerves? Your alter ego was half way up with your hand ready to smack the mess out the antagonist. Take the time to analyze your reaction and own it. Make room to gauge your reaction, why you reacted, and the root cause.
Be Up Front
There are ways to set up boundaries and limits to your “non-negotiables.” Cussing out and hitting someone is not one of them. You have a family member who harps on the same thing every time you meet. There’s a colleague jumping on your last professional nerve. There are 1001 ways to let that person know they crossed a line. They may not get your initial subtle hint laced with a smile. It might have to take a full on civilized tete-a-tete to get your point across. I usually get mine done in a blog (hint, hint.) Give it straight, no chasers.
Let It Go
Be a duck and let some of that stuff slide right off your back. Foolishness abounds and the Bible has always warned against others getting the best of us. There was a little girl who chose to bother another little girl just to ensure she wouldn’t make it on a class field trip. Sly looks, muttered words were the norm. That tortured girl had to get the help of parents and teachers to stay above the drama. Who in your life is fighting hard to keep you from your proverbial field trip? Rise above it.
Don’t be that ball of rage that even an elevator can’t contain. Sad part is those who lash out are the ones who are dismissed. We are not celebrities who get to come off an elevator and take beautiful photo shots. Ugly behavior breeds negativity and darkness that even a celebrity can’t shake off. Choose better. Do better.