American rock band, The Train, has this country-rock song called “Bruises” that I like to listen to. The chorus starts with, “These bruises, make for better conversation…”
Whoever thought that having emotional scars could actually be about something good? While we are in the midst of our personal muck, no one can convince us that there will be light at the end of the tunnel or that this is even worth talking about. But it will be. Someday.
Revelations 12:11 reminds us “And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony…” Our words, our stories, our testimonies are powerful milestones that sets aright all that has plagued us in the past. I remember a mentor that shared of her failing marriage and how God managed to see her through a divorce and a remarriage to her husband! It’s one of those, damn! God did that! She instantly became more than a well put together sister. She was now real, and human to me. Her willingness to impart her wisdom to me then and even now has kept us connected over five years after we are no longer working together.
We go through so much in our lives: miscarriages, failed marriages, death and loss, abuse, unemployment, loss of friendships, and overall disappointments. TD Jakes once said that the enemy uses isolation to keep us down. Imagine the time and opportunity, if given, to feel safe enough to reveal our battle scars and know that these scars could possibly save someone else’s life.
Transparency breaks down walls and reveals our humanity. It connects souls who would otherwise never have intersected paths. Your story is not your own to keep.
Make for better conversation,
Loses the vibe that separates,
It’s gonna let you in again,
You’re not alone in how you’ve been,
We all got bruises