There is a ratchet photo circulating along the meme highway of a group of Black women rolling into Red Lobster’s on Valentine’s Day looking like they were the cast offs from the Mad Max Thunder Dome movie. No bueno. Yet another ploy by the media demons to dissuade single women from being perfectly okay with the fact that they are not attached on the one day of the year where society says you NEED to be attached.
Don’t believe the hype. I know, I know. Married woman telling single woman it’s okay to be alone on this of all days. Married woman telling single woman she can do bad all by herself. Well it’s true. You can do the baddest, be the baddest all by your self.
Field Trip, Road Trip. It’s a long weekend this go around. Plan on going somewhere that doesn’t include long lines with people waiting for tasteless meals. Take the squad who can pay their own way and don’t mind splitting the check. If you don’t have them type of friends, there’s a blog coming soon for that too. Back in the day, me and my girlfriends would get dressed up and take our own selves to dinner. And trust! We looked nothing like them ratchet chicks on that meme. We did look more like cast offs from SWV! Lol! Fierce I say!
Treat yourself. It’s okay. You will realize that as an evolving woman, the obligations of life will cause you to place yourself on the back burner. Being married. Having kids. Caring for aging parents. Being a professional. All roles that will have you thinking less and less of yourself. In this season of solo-living, enjoy the privilege of buying the things you don’t need to fill a purchase order form for. Trust when I say, you got it good when you’re the only one minding your own finances. A tech savvy husband who knows when you swiped the card at the Pandora store is not what you want in your life right now! Buy those diamond stud earrings. Who says you have to wait on a man to buy them for you? Diamond rings are worn on any finger you know. Want a ring? Buy it? A puppy? A pair of shoes that will never go on sale? That eyewear that comes in the pretty blue box? Girl, you want it buy it. Just don’t break the bank while doing it. Another blog on that coming soon too.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Yes being romantically attached is the best thing since corn bread! But being unattached doesn’t mean you are somehow inadequate. Do not allow the enemy to come in the form of depression to take hold of your mind. He comes to tell steal your joy. Kill your dreams. And destroy your God-esteem. He comes in the form of naysayers, folks who keep asking you the idiotic “when are you?” questions, and especially as a dark voice oppressing your conscience. Keep busy in God’s work. Find a cause and volunteer. Mentor a young girl. Cultivate a culturally rich existence. Go to the opera. Try camping. Read a book. Travel.
This is not where I promise you that your Knight in Shining Armor is right around the corner. It is where I say that you are in a season of your life that can never be duplicated. That will be some of the best memories of your life. That will be what you think of wistfully and hopefully with no regrets.