Accountability: The Burden Of Truth

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” -Proverbs 27:17

Our “War Room Life” Group study is on week two of five lessons. Lesson One delved into living a lukewarm life. No one likes their water, tea, juice or coffee lukewarm. Especially God. This week, we move from pleasing God with our lifestyle to studying on the importance of accountability.

Confronted with a message that says we must be vigilant to be accountable one to another; many begin to squirm at the thought. Who among us wants the spiritual flashlight shined in the dark recesses of our heart? Who among us enjoys a rousing conversation about what we should or should not be doing, or how we should or should not be living?

Even I, a self-proclaimed “keep it real or go home” believer, do not exactly relish having to speak “challenging truths” to my friends in the faith. Never mind trying to be on the receiving end! Glad to know that the Word of God isn’t filled with suggestions though. It’s all for the benefit of the Body of Christ.

It breeds growth.  Stagnancy will be foreign to the person who is open to hearing what needs to be said about them and for them. The wounds of a friend will serve a greater purpose than the kisses of an enemy (Proverbs 27:6). It can be as simple as veering your girlfriend away from buying that one more purse she doesn’t need to encouraging someone to live out their dreams or moving on from a hurtful relationship.  The first keeps money in her bank account. The second brings about personal success. The third heals a heart. All a means to a fruitful end.

It yields spiritual maturity. At day’s end, when you speak in hushed, gentle, yet firm tones with your brother or sister, feelings and emotions have to be the last thing considered. Rather it is the condition of your soul that will matter when we meet our Savior. You can’t be worried about offending when their soul is in peril. You can’t be worried about losing a friendship if it will mean them seeing Jesus one day. It is the toughest pill to swallow. The one that goes against the grain. Yet is is the necessary thing to do.

It makes for a better you. Holding each other accountable brings about healthy and transparent relationships. The days of “yes men” relationships are over. If I can’t speak to you in honesty and truth and expect the same in return, then this relationship has met its demise. Only when we surround ourself with like-minded souls are we truly able to see progress in our walk with Christ.

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone. Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” -Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Grief And Loss

It’s In The Telling

It will also come to pass that before they call, I will answer; and while they are still speaking, I will hear. (Isaiah 65:24 NASB)

Thinking of my mom is the first and last thing I do each day. And even with a loving spouse laying right next to me, it is a very lonely feeling to get up with thoughts of loss.

Who else to turn to but God? Man’s comfort is temporal. It’s conditional and although well-meaning it doesn’t meet the need of a creation who needs her Creator instantly. Even as I begin to speak in my heart to Him, he already knows. He knew this season was to come and I know that all roads in my life led to this.

There are times when I don’t want to talk to God about how I feel these days. I figure he should already know how I feel and what my needs are. But it’s moments like these when I know my expressions to him, my honesty isn’t about him hearing it (duh, He knows everything), but rather just His way of helping me confront my fears and my hurt. It’s in the telling that He will help me get through this.

Thank you Jesus for being my friend, thank you Holy Spirit for being my comforter, and thank you God for holding my heart in your hand.